My one rule is do NOT be boring.
I am writing this as a guide because I know that many of you have not had the exposure or resources you might need to fully understand this rule. You are very under-resourced, unprivileged and deprived of what it takes to achieve this one goal. For example if you meet any of the following qualifications you have an uphill battle:
– If you can trace your family name back hundreds of years and it’s been staying two syllables – you have a generational deficiency.
– If you were voted most popular, most likely to succeed in high school – you had better get a drug addiction or at least an obsession with vintage troll dolls to even start your remediation.
– If you take great pride in your abilities in formal English – spelling, grammar, usage – and correct other peoples – you have many habits to unlearn.
– If you strive to look like Gweneth Paltrow and follow her beauty recommendations – you worship a false idol.
Superficial alterations are a temporary currency – one that is rapidly losing value.
You cannot pretend to not be boring, you can learn some of the lingo, dress the part, but without actual work your options will be limited.
One traditional route is some form of trauma, leading to years of therapy, which may help you to feel special and love yourself, but does not help you escape your predestined outcome.
It can be very hard to see beyond your known reality – to know that there are different definitions of success, of family, of life choices. Now it is true that most experts advocate starting at a young age. Each year at a hegemonic and monolithic suburban or private school limits your worldview. When the only thing you see in your environment is monogamous straight marriages that appear to enjoy vanilla sex and kids with names that are cities or brands like Tiffany, London, Lily, Thatcher, you might find it strange when a name has an accent mark or is more than ten letters long.
If you do not come across a multitude of problems, you cannot gain complex problem solving skills.